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lately, things around are reminding you of the coming of the Mother’s Day. telling you to celebrate and show your appreciation of your Mother, dining with your Mother, gifts for your Mother, so on and so forth……
but why do we have to be reminded to appreciate our own Mother on the day? are we really being so unappreciative of our own Mother in the other 364 days?
something is wrong here. but what is it?
consumption aside (it is actually quite difficult to celebrate anything without consumption in this highly commercialised consumer world, with our busy routines), there is still something that bugs me, to celebrate such an exclusive Day for an exclusive Mother.
it is precisely such exclusiveness that is bothering me, because when talking about Mother, i cannot skip my thoughts from all those mothers that were suffering；to care for and support their families, struggling to make ends meet for the family, being treated with with contempt and/or indifferences by the Society no matter how hard they tried, had their sons and daughters being disappeared or murdered, or forced to leave her for political or economical reasons, if not the mothers themselves being forced to leave their families to find work to to raise their children because of political-economic reasons…… the listing can go on and on.
why am i bothering with all these mothers beyond my own Mother? because, i am seeing them around me. because, such with exclusiveness to the lives we are living fosters exclusion and segregation among us. because, such exclusiveness is closely related with Nuclear Family and thus closely associated with, if not synonym with, possession and property and resources monopolising.
something is wrong here, such celebration of the Mother’s Day calls for scrutiny.
thus, i look up the origin and development of the Mother’s Day, and here below is what i found, which was the original appeal for the celebration of the mothers’ day:
Appeal to womanhood throughout the world by Julia Ward Howe, written in Boston and dating back to September, 1870
allow me to quote and extract here from the Appeal:
Arise, then, Christian women of this day! Arise, all women who have hearts whether your baptism be that of water or of tears! Say firmly: We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies. Our husbands shall not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience. We, women of one country, will be too tender of those of another country, to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.
now, that is the mothers’ day i would celebrate……
happy arising on the mothers’ day!